And then there's the ex-wife...

So far the Yankee and I have chugged along in our bliss. We've started regularly hanging out with all the kids and things have been fabulous. Apparently, to his kids, more fabulous than I thought.

During our first weekend trip together as a group, I disclosed to him that I had told my kids that we date when they aren't around. Nothing big but enough for them to understand why this guy and his kids are suddenly around. He chose not to discuss it with his kids, which is his prerogative. Enter: confusion.

At one point he and I are sitting innocently on the bed. There had been no kissing or hugging, some minor arm or back touching but nothing overt. Well, his son says "I know a secret! You two are in LOVE and you'll probably get married and have another baby!" We were taken aback and I immediately said "well I think we have enough kids!" His son then says, "there ARE a lot of kids in this room!" LOL. His daughter then says, "then you'll be my stepmom!" We dropped the conversation about that point, although his son continued to insist throughout the weekend that we're "in love."

The next exchange with his ex-wife, she says to him "so, I hear you're getting married! when do I get to meet her?" He apparently laughed at her but no further discussions occurred. So she is operating under the impression we ARE getting married and I think his kids are too.

Now I will be perfectly honest under the veil of anonymity here- I would marry him. I wouldn't do it soon, but I feel like I COULD do it. It shocks me but I can see us blending. But back to the ex-wife...

So, I think this meet up actually should happen. I'm a mom, I get it. I spend time with her kids. I'm not a caretaker of them, he does that. He's fabulous at it and never expects me to do anything for them. But I am around them more and more. I want to put her at ease, because I think she's putting ideas into the kids that if I'm in their life things will change. His son told me he doesn't want to change schools, and noted that my kids go to a different school. The thought of him worried about that makes me sad.

And let's face it, I'm nosy as hell. I want to see her, and not just the one profile pic on facebook that she has straight locked down. I know a lot of what she did to him and I want to say, see, he's got someone better- someone who appreciates him and is younger/thinner/hotter/wealthier/more successful than you. I know that's terrible but it's also honest.

I think he'll avoid it as long as he possibly can. He isn't bringing me to his daughter's birthday party, which makes sense since my kids couldn't come and I'd just be there alone like a fool. But we'll see...